At every moment, a woman makes a choice: between the state of the queen and the state of the slave girl. In our natural state, we are glorious beings. In the world of illusion, we are lost and imprisoned, slaves to our appetites and our will to false power. Our jailer is a three-headed monster: one head our past, one our insecurity, and one our popular culture… Marianne Williamson A Woman’s Worth

Are you a queen or a slave-girl?

Think about that for a moment.

Sometimes you need to be reminded of your own gloriousness, even when you’re grappling with a scouring brush and a dirty saucepan from last night’s dinner…


Sometimes, you forget that you’re a goddess when you’ve been packing lunch boxes and getting kids ready for school and ready to collapse in a heap before your day has even really started…


Sometimes, you deserve to be told that you’re doing an amazing job of keeping things together, even when you’ve just lost your patience and dropped the juggling balls to have a cry…


Here are three ways to consciously claim your position as queen of your domain.


1. Stop Making Excuses 

The slave will always come up with excuses about why she’s a victim of her circumstances. ‘I didn’t have a great childhood,’ and ‘this is all I’m capable of’ are great excuses. However, when we stop making excuses and start putting ourselves in the sovereign position of deciding to make positive changes, it restores our regal right to choose our outcomes. Isn’t this what free will is for?


2. Rise Above the Sh*t

Yes, that saucepan needs a scrub, you’re tired and you’re losing patience. The remedy? Rise above it. There is always going to be sh*t to deal with. The difference between you and someone who doesn’t rise above her station is the fact that you recognise that there are always going to be imperfections and challenges to deal with and you still choose to be the queen anyway.

A real queen will stay in her grace and glory (meaning she’ll still see herself as valuable and infinitely lovable) even when she is vulnerable. In fact, she will embrace all of her circumstances and consider them as a necessary part of her path towards freedom and liberation. A slave will use her circumstances to remain stuck in bondage.


3. Act ‘As If’

This is a fabulous coaching tool that supports change on a grand scale when it’s practiced regularly. How would you be and what would you do if you had already succeeded at the very thing you are working towards? Acting as if it has already happened is a great place to make your decisions from. Choose to act as if you already have the time and resources you need and decide from that place what you need to do next.


Being a queen is a choice you make over being stuck in the disempowerment of slavery. Stop making excuses about why you can’t reach for your dreams and start believing that you’re becoming the regal goddess that can. Rise above your station and own your new position as a leader and a ruler over your own destiny.


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About The Author

Lisa Fitzpatrick

Lisa Fitzpatrick is a best-selling author who revels in supporting women to find their unique life purpose and heal their businesses so they can enjoy holistic success. She is the founder of Sacred Women’s Business, a coaching and training organisation supporting conscious women leaders who have a legacy to leave. Lisa is a certified coach, writer, yoga teacher, workshop facilitator, speaker, registered physiotherapist and mother of two sons who live near Byron Bay, Australia.

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  1. Ankya Klay

    Thanks for the great ‘Queen’ tips Lisa! Yes, it’s all about taking your beautiful ‘Crown’ and wearing it nobly on your head at all times while sitting on your own Throne !

    I’d add that ‘learning to say No’ is a vital part of the process too. NO to one’s own negative self talk as well as NO to the perceived demands of others that no longer resonate with your Queendom.


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